Couples therapy is not so different from individual work. Each person arrives with their own nature, their own dignity, and their own longings for the relationship. My job isn’t to be neutral, rather to understand each of you and what you desire, what hurts, and how you participate in the patterns that keep repeating.

Together we look at the forces shaping your partnership without assigning blame or shame. I listen for the roles each of you have taken on, both consciously and unconsciously, and how those roles influence the system you share. I pay close attention to the moment-to-moment dynamics in the room and help identify the misunderstandings, the tenderness, the grief, the places where there is love. 

I see loving as an art that asks us to practice. Falling in love is easy; standing in love, once the landing has happened, this requires maturity, courage, and a certain lion-heartedness. It asks us to return again and again to honesty, clarity, and compassion.

Standing in love doesn’t mean staying in a relationship no matter what. It means relating from a place that honors your well-being and the other person’s humanity, whether you’re repairing, reshaping, or discerning a different path. My aim is to help you understand the pattern you’re living in, so you can choose how you want to move forward with more truth and less fear.